The Elevated Perspective on Dating: Tips for Tall Women

Geplaatst op 07-08-2025

Apparently, a lot of guys are into climbing trees because that’s all too often the go-to line for men trying to get the attention of tall women. Dating is rarely easy and for single ladies six-foot-two and taller, the struggle to connect with a great guy is tougher than finding the perfect shoe in size 14.

Mothers can instill lessons about standing up straight and being confident, but we’re going to give some practical insight into how to read the signals and how to assess your own priorities if you’re a sky-scraping singleton.

Pay Attention to His Opening Line

There’s a good chance his opener may involve asking if you play basketball. Obviously, if you do—three of the women interviewed for this article play competitively—that’s okay. If you don’t, as is the case with Arianne Cohen, author of The Tall Book: A Celebration of Life from on High, “It’s really not an attractive question.”

It’s up to each tall woman to decide how she feels about the basketball question. Unless the man insults your hoops skills it seems harmless. If you answer in the affirmative and then he throws down a challenge like the ones Danielle Moseley has heard, he’s probably not worth the effort.

“The worst pick up line is, ‘I’m going to dunk on you’ or ‘You can’t beat me in basketball,’” says six-foot-two Moseley, who says she’s not going to play ball on or off the court with someone who says that.

Listen to how he offers his compliments. Although it’s nice for a man to be fascinated with you, be careful it’s you he wants and not a conquest story to brag about to his friends.

Don’t Compromise Your Passion for Heels

Let’s face it, most women feel more confident when they’re wearing shoes they love and confidence draws positive attention. The Internet has made it easier to find great styles in large sizes, so if you love heels don’t forgo them to suit a potential date.

Six-foot-three professional basketball player Nicky Anosike, a WNBA All-Star and two-time NCAA Champion in her college days, says high heels make her feel like a super model. Moseley’s motto is “Cute shoes don’t come in flats.”

It’s up to each woman how high she’ll wear her heels. WNBA Champion Camille Little says she’ll go as high as four inches while Cohen says two and a half inches is sufficient to show off her legs while maintaining comfort.

Size Only Matters if You Let It

It’s up to each tall woman to decide whether she can handle dating a shorter man, but three out of the four women interviewed say they are open to it and their arguments are persuasive.

Little is currently dating a man who’s about five-foot-ten and she’s totally cool with it. Anosike says, “I’d like to be with someone who is taller than me, but it’s definitely not at the top of my list.”

Cohen says she became a staunch advocate of being open minded about height when she realized that at six-foot-three only 3.9 percent of the male population is taller than she is. Adding in her iron clad standards and qualifications—trust, personality and compatibility—she found herself looking at zero percent of the male population.

She says you can’t pretend the physical mismatch doesn’t exist, but you can get past it. “If you find a great, wonderful guy and you’re a little taller than him, look in the mirror [together] and say, ‘We look ridiculous,’ and then move on,” she says. “What matters is that you’re happy and that you have a good partner if that’s what you want.”

On the other hand, Moseley says she’s unashamed about drawing the line at six feet. “I don’t think it’s shallow, just picky,” she says. It’s her prerogative.

Remember the Upside of Being Tall

Worst case scenario a man may want to borrow your sneakers—especially if you’re a professional basketball player or work for a shoe company and get really cool new issues. But that’s only a microscopic percentage of the population so he’ll probably stick with his own Nikes or Reeboks.

A definite upside is it’s a litmus test for potential partners that may reflect on things beyond height—like how he feels about women getting attention or being more successful.